Ways to relax and have fun before and during ?

Are you on any kind of birth control like the pill of the l ring? the chemincals in these kind of contraceptives can often affect your mood and your drive. Any kind of depression, be it mild or severe, can and most likely will affect your drive. you'll have to explain the situation to your boyfriend, you have been with him a long time so I am sure he will completely understand. Going slower than before will help. Going from soft kissing for a few minutes to just gentle touching for a while will ease you into it rather than rushing in and overwhelming you, which seems to result in a clostrophobic feeling for you. Talking about the ways that you like things to be done will also help you feel relaxed, other things are the old reliables like a sensual mage, fun toys and discussion of ual fantasies. Hope I helped.